I have been very loose with the rules around Red Hawk for the past few years. This new location is the perfect time and place to set a new precedence. There are many things that have bothered me as a coach and business owner, and they will not be an issue any longer. I may add to this list as time progresses, or as I see problems and issues that need to be addressed. I will state reasons for said rules so you understand why they are in place.
1: You Must Sign In Before You Are Allowed On The Floor
In the years past I have been loose with allowing kids to practice before they have fully signed in. I have allowed you to pay the next day or to go to a place where you can take out money to pay. Because of this, kids have gotten through practices for free due to my own negligence or yours. Whether you do this on purpose or you honestly just forget, I will not allow your wrestler on the floor without either signing in or paying. I can only keep the doors open if I can pay for the space. If you care enough to keep Red Hawk going and you appreciate our practices and business, then you will care enough to make sure we can pay our rent.
Do not drop off your wrestler without making sure he is signed in. He will sit in a chair in the waiting room until you get back. If you have a habit of just dropping your wrestler off, we will assume you are trying to steal our business due to our own lack of attention.
2: No Parents In The Wrestling Area
We will only allow coaches, wrestlers, and certified referees in the wrestling area of our business. If you want to stay and watch, stay in the waiting room.
If you wish to come out to the floor and help, you must ask for permission, have wrestling shoes on, have appropriate clearances, and you must have a deep understanding of wrestling. If you don't know what you're doing, you are often teaching the wrong thing to the kids. Then we have to correct the problems which takes extra time out of the practice and hurts the kids you set back. You must also follow Rule #3 and not hover your own child.
3: There Is To Be No Coaching Of Your Own Child
We understand you want to help. We understand you want your wrestler to get the most out of every practice. But we will no longer tolerate the coaching of one's own child within our wrestling room. In general, you as a parent do not know enough about the sport and we've seen it time and time again where the parent is yelling at the wrestler to do something we either do not approve of or do not teach.
Take your emotions out of it. It is your kid's activity, not yours. Yelling at your child will only distract him from the task at hand. We do not want the wrestler to be so distracted with his parent that he cannot concentrate enough to have a good practice.
Realize that it takes thousands of hours of practice to get good at anything. Rome was not built in a day and neither is your son's wrestling career. Take a step back, and let your wrestler focus on why he's there. Allow your wrestler to do it for himself, not because he's trying to please his parent. You will get more out of your son by doing this, we promise.
We will handle the room appropriately and quell any fighting or bad behaivor. It is not your job to do so. You getting involved only spurs more anger and action from your wrestler, escalating the situation. Again, take a step back, we have this handled. Usually our advice is to have them figure it out on their own. We will calm them down, offer advice, and split them up if need be.
We are trying to build adults here. You coddling your wrestler, trying to make sure he's never in danger and never has to fight any battles just handicaps him for life. We'll figure it out, we'll teach them how to figure it out. This is about training a certain mentality to be successful at wrestling and whatever else comes their way. Let us handle it.
4: Your Wrestler Should Not Leave The Floor
This piggybacks on the last rule a little, for you coaching your own wrestler forces him to leave the floor to further understand what you are trying to say. We need the wrestler's full attention. If he's leaving the floor or going to the wall every so often to talk to you he is not focusing on the practice. He is losing time, the one thing we will never have enough of.
We will give them breaks on an hourly basis so they can get some water and go to the bathroom. If they need a bathroom or drink break outside of this, it will cost them 25 push-ups, and they are all well aware of that price. If there's an emergency, like they need their inhaler or something of the sort, we will let them take care of it.
From here on out, every time they leave the floor without permission they will incur a push-up penalty, and a strike. If they get three strikes, they're done for the practice.
5: No Pictures, Video Taping, or Sound Recording Without Express Permission
This should be rather obvious, but you'd be surprised how often people break this rule. If you're checking your phone, don't point it at the room, you will be asked to stop taping because we assume that's what you're doing.
From our perspective, you are doing one of two things:
1: Stealing information from us and saving it for further use at home or another wrestling club. This undermines our practices. We will release videos of our lesson plan eventually on a subscription or member only basis. If you want proper instruction, attend practice.
2: Video taping kids wrestling without the consent of parents or the kids themselves, which is downright creepy and makes everyone involved feel uncomfortable. We don't know the reason for your new video, so we can only assume the worst.
6: Have Good Sportsmanship
Your child must display good sportsmanship the entire time he's at Red Hawk. This includes flagrant misconduct and generally anything deemed illegal. If a referee would give a point for it, we don't want it here.
Do not teach your wrestler to be unsportsmanlike, especially in our room. We have enough trouble trying to deal with kids that have been getting away with bad behavior for far too long. Yelling something like, "he choked you? Then you do it back!" is detrimental to this idea and only escalates the situation. We want our kids to laugh at this kind of behavior, for it is beneath their character.
For every single unsportsmanlike point they incur in the room, we will issue a push-up penalty and give them a strike. They cannot have negative thoughts and emotions while wrestling, it takes away their focus and they become less effective. They must have a clear head, and we will train them to do this over time.
7: Your Wrestler Must Respect The Coaches
There will be no talking back to the coaches in our room. There is time for discussion, but shaking of the head, throwing hands up in the air, muttering under one's breath, giving excuses, or generally talking back to authority figures will not be tolerated.
We deal with a lot of kids who seem to have an easy time talking back to authority figures. We can only assume this is the direction of society in general, or they're allowed to do this at home, and we will do our best to help this bad behavior. If they do not respect you, they will not respect us. Teach your child how to respect adults and people who are trying to help. If you allow them to walk all over you at home they will try it at Red Hawk, and will be confused when we don't allow it, because they think it's normal.
Being coachable will aid your wrestler in this sport and in life. Teach your son how to be coachable and how to take direction. This will make it a lot easier to get your child better at most tasks, including wrestling. Coachable kids breed employable adults.